Hey Mishka - 5 things I learned from Mallika Chopra

On a snoozy Friday afternoon as I was sitting at my desk plugging away at a project when an ABC Home newsletter appeared in my inbox. It was a talk with Mallika Chopra, founder of Intent.com (and the infamous Deepak’s daughter), hosted by Gabrielle Bernstein.

I wasn’t that familiar with Mallika, but I bought my tickets within 15 seconds, knowing in my gut that it was going to be a good experience. I was sooo right.

On Tuesday night I made my way through the rain and the rush hour crowds to ABC Home and nestled into the modern, boho-chic sanctuary that is the Deepak Homebase, where Mallika and Gabby spent the evening sharing priceless gems of wisdom.

Below I’ve boiled down the five things that stood out the most for me below…

 Power is held wherever you put it. A famous story in Mallika’s family is that of her grandmother planning out a specific sari for the day when she would greet the new Prime Minister of India, along with millions of others, as he passed by in his car.

The family teased her for caring which colors she wore and for thinking he would even see her. When he drove by, though, he actually stopped his car and handed her a rose, out of everyone there. Bam! Grandma was in tune with the power of manifestation!

She went on to wear certain color saris to predict the outcome of sports games, and was rarely ever wrong. Adorable and powerful.

 Own your story, whether it’s the story of globe-trotter, guru, or amazing mother.

Mallika has two daughters, and she spoke for a few minutes about a modern mother’s dilemma when she aims to live a spiritual existence: do I travel the world? Go on spiritual adventures? Spend all day meditating? Attend endless seminars and retreats?

At the end of the day, be who you are, and never apologize for it.

 Recognize when you’ve checked out and set the intention to return. There are few things more refreshing than a role model revealing how they’re just like us.

Mallika recalled a time when she was giving a talk to a large group of people, but her mind was actually wandering to her to-do list. Can you relate? I definitely can. She recognized that she was off track, and asked the group to meditate while she realigned, so she could really be present with them.

How awesome is it for her to even admit that?

 Lead by example. Her father is Deepak Chopra, so you might not be surprised to learn that learned meditation as a daily practice at age nine. But she confessed candidly that it wasn’t because she thought it was “cool”, or more interesting than after school cartoons.

She simply saw her mother meditating for one hour per day when she got home, and in order to spend more time with her mom, she planted herself nearby and meditated too. She was being taught by example.

 Falling off the wagon is part of the process. Finally, an adorable story Mallika shared about her constant struggle with a chocolate chip cookie fixation was a cute but poignant metaphor for every struggle in life.

She spoke about the process, winning the little battles, and taking it day by day… which sometimes includes giving in and having a chocolate chip cookie. Her point was, whatever your “cookie” is, take it one day at a time and give yourself a break. The point of being alive is not being perfect.

Her warm personality really made an impact on the room, and that same vibe comes through her book, Living with Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace, and Joy (not an affiliate link!). Grab a copy for more heart warming and down to earth guidance.

I’ll be reading it this month during my morning commute.




Written by Mishka
A city girl who loves palm trees, strong coffee & late night writing. Founder of lifestyle blog Hey Mishka, co-founder & writing coach at Day Job Optional, and designer at Maison Minnaloushe. Learn more about her here.